The question is how best to tackle worries and eliminate them. Worrying is a low arousal activity. You are usually worried when you are least aroused which is the opposite of anger as you saw earlier.

Similar to handling anger through adjusting your arousal level, you can do the same for worry. Since you are in a low arousal state when worried, you want to do something that arouses you and makes you more excited. Anything that makes you feel less aroused should be avoided as it is counterproductive.

The best way to tackle worry is:

• Socialise
• Change environment and go out
• Talk to family and friends. You don’t necessarily have to go to talk about your worries, just the social activity can help you greatly and if the conversation gets to your worry and you feel prepared, you can expand as you see fit.
• Do exercises such as aerobics, football, tennis or other high energy sport.
• Improve your self image. For example, have your hair done, put make up on and wear your nice clothes and shoes to feel good about yourself.
• Go shopping and buy yourself a treat or a gift.
• Shift your point of view and look at the event from a different angle. Solve the worst case scenario first by using a reality check, then work backwards.

What you should not be doing when you are worried is:

• Staying home alone
• Crying it out
• Relaxation, massage, deep breath or staying in a quiet environment.
• Staring at a calm ocean when you are worried doesn’t quite energize unless you get involved in some water sport activity or find something to completely distract yourself.